True story: I no longer have a lot of friends. I am on the same page with my family and it seems like my siblings are my only friends. Other than them, I don’t like anyone else.
I used to have a large circle of friends and was capable of making new friends very easily. I wasn’t shy, rather self-confident and extremely sociable.
More importantly, I believed that these people would stay with me forever. They were more than friends to me, pretty much like non-blood relatives.
However, as time passed by, things notably changed. Each and every one of them left and left me broken to pieces.
That`s the thing about people: they always walk away. As unpleasant and miserable as this sounds, the truth is that everyone can relate to it.
The bottom line is that the older you get, the harder it is to make new friends. In fact, you come to realize that you hate everyone. What`s more, this is OK!
Because the older you get, the less bullsh*t you’re willing to put up with.
When we are young, we do a lot of self-destructive and embarrassing things in order to make as much new friends as possible. Needless to say, this makes us inclined to bad friendships, leaving as unaware of the signs indicating that we are trapped in a toxic friendship.
As we grow older, we are less willing to deal with this shit. If a person is not ready to put the work needed to make our friendship last, they can walk away. If this means losing friends, then f*ck it!
Because the older you get, the less you care about making new friends.
As you get older, making new friends becomes one of the lat things on your list of priorities. You are not interested in being involved in such games and you eventually get over it.
However, this doesn’t mean that you are not a friendly person though. You hang out with people and chat it up with them, but telling them secrets and getting extremely close is not an option.
Because the older you get, the less you trust sh*tty people.
At this point, you have learned that people are the worst! When you are young, you believe that everyone is a good person and you trust them with all of your heart.
However, as time passes by you become aware of the truth and you realize that people are self-serving and no one genuinely cares about you. Such painful experiences are great eye-openers, as they only make you stronger!
Because the older you get, the less you choose to put anyone before yourself.
Along the road between early and late adulthood, you stop bothering with other people`s opinion and you focus on yourself. You stop doing things to please others and start doing things to please YOURSELF only.
Interestingly, many friendships have ended for this particular reason. Once you let them treat you like an idiot, they leave.