Rule #1 – communication is key.
Communication is always going to be an important aspect of any relationship. And it’s also something that is inherently tricky in itself. It’s not necessarily something that comes easy to most couples. It’s not something that a lot of people are going to be able to nail right away in a relationship. In fact, there are so many couples that end up breaking up with one another just because they couldn’t get their communication game right. And it’s a damn shame, really. Communication really does have the power to fix so many problems in a relationship – if done effectively and properly. It’s just unfortunate that it’s not necessarily a skill that everyone is born with.
But just because you aren’t born a skilled communicator doesn’t mean that you can’t work on it. Sure, you and your partner might not be good at communicating to one another, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to work on it. Relationships are never perfect after all. There are always going to be certain flaws that both of you are going to need to continuously work on so as long as you stay together. And it’s more than just about using the right words or using the right tone when you’re talking to one another. Communication goes so much deeper than that and the most communicative couples really understand this.
A great communication game in a relationship is built on healthy habits. And if you notice that you and your partner are practicing a few bad habits, then you need to make the necessary corrections to them. You always have to be able to maintain a sense of self-awareness in your relationship if you really want things to work out. You can’t just be complacent and content with loving one another. You have to make a conscious choice to work on your love for each other every single day. So take a look at your relationship and try to see things as objectively as possible. Check if your relationship is exhibiting some bad symptoms of poor communication. And if you do spot these symptoms, then it’s time for you to act before it’s too late. You can’t just ignore these issues and these problems. You can’t sweep these symptoms under a rug in the hopes that they eventually go away. You have to act on them. But first, you have to know what these symptoms look like.
Poor communication can manifest itself in a relationship in various ways. They stretch from nonverbal and verbal forms of communication. And all relationships are inherently diverse and complex. So while it can be difficult to generalize what constitutes poor communication in a relationship, experts have found that these 3 common symptoms are genuine signs of bad communication between two people. So if you find that you and your partner are guilty of the things listed on here, then you both need to make an adjustment.
1. You both don’t maintain an open mind when talking to one another.
Open-mindedness is always going to be important in any form of relationship – whether romantic or not. But when it comes to romantic couples, open-mindedness can really go a long way in sustaining the strength of a love. If you are both open-minded, then you are both essentially allowing yourselves to see things from your partner’s perspective as well. When you are open-minded, coming to resolutions for conflicts and disagreements are just so much easier. The better that you understand each other’s sentiments and motivations, the easier it will be for you to live a life with one another.
2. You both avoid having arguments with one another.
Arguments and conflicts don’t have to be avoided in a relationship. In fact, they’re pretty inevitable. And it’s very unhealthy for couples not to tackle their conflicts head on. The strongest couples are the ones who are secure enough in their love and communication skills to actually argue and disagree with each other. But they always make sure to come to some sort of compromise or resolution in the end. At the end of each conflict, the best couples always come out stronger than before.
3. You both don’t keep one another in the loop when you’re not together.
Most issues in a relationship usually arise in the time that you’re apart from one another. For instance, if you’re going to be working late one night, then have the courtesy to let your partner know about it. If you’re running late for a date, then call your partner ahead of time. If you made plans to go out with your friends this weekend, then tell your partner about it. If your boss is forcing you to fly out of town for the weekend, then inform your partner. Keep your partner in the loop. Make them feel included in your life. You can’t just go around living your life and expect your partner to make the effort to get caught up with the news. Be proactive.