I guess you’ve seen those romantic movies where a woman stays loyal to and waits for her guy to decide what exactly he wants in life, whether it’s his career or her. And of course, you know how the story goes. He focuses on his career, achieves his goals, and then finally realizes that he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her.
It sounds great, right?
Okay now, everyone, wake up, please! You don’t live in a romantic comedy. Moreover, not all love stories have a happy ending like those in the Hollywood movies.
The thing is that a woman will give you thousands of chances. And she’ll do that not because she’s naïve, but because she believes in you. She believes that you can change, grow, reach your greatest potential, and become a better version of yourself.
The woman who loves you will patiently wait for you to get your sh*t together. Yet, if you blow the chance, then get prepared to face the consequences. She’ll leave you because when this woman is done – she is done.
Once she realizes that her life is much better without you in it, draining her energy and wasting her time, don’t doubt that she’ll walk away. She’ll know that you’re not worth her tears. You can make changes to your physical appearance, habits, attitudes, or career, but nothing of these can make her change her mind about you.
And if you think you can justify yourself by saying that “If she couldn’t handle me at my worst, she doesn’t deserve me at my best” cliché, know that it’s in vain. No one has to put up with their partner’s bullsh*t and no one deserves to have a life full of drama and stress just because he/she doesn’t want to take responsibility for their wrongdoings.
You might think that her decision to leave you was a selfish act, but don’t forget that your behavior was the main reason why she decided to finish her chapter with you and move on.
It’s as simple as that. You can’t keep someone waiting for you until you decide what you really want in life. You can’t expect someone to devote all their attention and energy to you when you don’t even put the minimal amount of effort into the relationship.
There’s no doubt that you’ll find someone who will be with you when you get your life together. However, the real question is whether you’ll find someone who will be willing to stay with you when all your flaws, quirks, and insecurities begin to surface. Someone who will be willing to help you fight your own demons – just like she was.
And this is exactly why you’ll regret losing her. You’ll regret losing the woman who stood by your side when you were at your lowest. The woman who saw your darkest sides and still chose to stay with you.
You’ll regret losing the woman who had a unique heart and loved you unconditionally. The woman who gave you everything she had. The woman who stuck with you through thick and thin and tolerated your bullsh*t.
You’ll regret not seeing her value. You’ll regret not making things right when you had the chance. You’ll regret letting her slip away.
She was worth much more than you were willing to give. You didn’t know how to appreciate her. You took her for granted and this broke her heart.
You thought that whatever you said or did, she’d stay with you. You got comfortable depending on her forgiveness. You thought she had no other options. You thought she would always give you a chance. But, you were wrong.
This woman knows her worth and she won’t settle for anything less than what she deserves.
She’s fallen for your bullsh*t so many times, but now she’s done. Now, it’s time for her to turn the page.
Now, it’s time for her to find someone who will know how to value and love her. It’s time she felt free and alive again.